Teach Yourself Resilience With These 5 Daily Exercises

Do you know someone who always seems to bounce back from adversity without a scratch? While they may seem like a superhuman, it turns out anyone can learn this skill with intentional practice. We asked our mindfulness community for the answers -- welcoming contributions from Gisela Andras (Psychology, MBA Student), Diana Zapata (Photographer), and Erin Houston (CEO and Co-Founder of Wearwell).

Nurture Relationships

Connecting regularly is a great way for building relationships. Gisela says, “this goes beyond just actively keeping in touch, a lot of the magic is in actively keeping them in [your] heart, integrating them into [your] daily life and daily practices.”

For Diana “it’s important to have a balance between how much talking you do and how much listening as well.” This way you “nurture those relationships and it also gives perspective when you might feel like you’re the only one suffering through difficulties.” Of course, we can’t forget that “it’s a two-way street!” Erin reminds us that it’s important to “support those same people whenever they need it most.”

Find Meaning In Failure

As Diana puts it, “focusing on what’s lost is the best way to stay stuck. A setback or a challenge is just an opportunity for growth.” Erin adds, “if you fail at something, find meaning in learning how you missed the mark. If you face a setback you didn't expect, find another way to accomplish what you set out to do.”

While it can be easy to feel defeated, there are some tools at your disposal. In stressful moments, Erin repeats a simple mantra, “it's only a matter of resiliency and time before I'll be on the other side of it.” Gisela uses meditation as “an incredibly powerful tool to gain a healthy distance from [her] immediate emotions... and reassess the situation.”

Embrace Change

In Diana’s words, “the challenge is always to accept that these plans might (and most likely will) derail, but the opportunity here is to be able to adapt and adjust.” Erin says, “it's a lot easier to roll with the punches and hurdles that come up,” when you understand your bigger life purpose.

Practice Optimism

“Remind yourself that we are in constant fluctuations, it is normal to feel defeated sometimes, but getting back up is also part of the process,” suggests Diana. If you find yourself feeling pessimistic, Gisela recommends to “focus on the present moment and slow down your breathing,” so you can see things in perspective. A visual cue or reminder can also be a good reminder to stay inspired. Erin has the words, “Gratitude attracts more reasons to be grateful" framed on her bedside table.”

Be Decisive

“There will always be a ‘what if’ but it is never important because it is non-existent,” says Diana. Erin reminds us, “you can't change the past, but you can adjust and course-correct in the future.” If you have a big life decision, take a night to sleep on it. If you still feel the same way in the morning, stick to that choice and run with it.


If you still find your mind racing, Gisela always comes back to her meditation practice. “It gives me a tool to shed all those layers, find my inner voice and have the strength to listen.” For further reading, check out 4 Ways to Manage A Restless Mind.

Is Meditation the Key to A Resilient Workforce?

Do you ever feel like part of you is always thinking about work? If you’re feeling this way, there’s a good chance your team is too. That’s why it’s important to develop the proper skills so you and your team can manage stress in a healthy way.

Lead The Way

Teaching your team resilience can go a long way when it comes to managing stress on a team and individual level. The development of these four skills can help a person learn to be more resilient in the face of adversity:

  • Optimism: Find the silver lining solution in unfavorable situations or difficult times

  • Composure: The ability to stay balanced and manage strong or difficult emotions

  • Safety: Provide a sense of security and “non-judgement” atmosphere

  • Support: Give your team support outlets (personally or refer to professionals)

Once you and your team develop these skills and become more resilient, it will become even easier over time to keep “getting back on the horse.”

The Value Of Failure

Don’t be afraid to let your team fail and find things out for themselves. A healthy amount of failure when the consequences are not life-threatening will help build resilience. As Winston Churchill puts it, “Success is not final; Failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts.”

There’s no greater service you can do for a person than to teach them the skills that will help them remain resilient through the highs and lows of life. Remember, the important lesson here isn’t to create an environment where your team won’t face adversity. The point is to teach your team the proper skills to be resilient and rise to the occasion.

How to Clear Your Mind and Fuel Your Creativity

Have you ever had an “aha!” moment when you least expected it? Maybe you were in the shower, on a run, or simply drinking your morning coffee when suddenly... the answer became clear. There’s a reason why these breakthrough ideas strike at strange times and it’s most often when you have a clear mind.

In order to do your most creative work, you have to silence any anxious and stressful thoughts, especially if you have external pressure like pending deadlines. The good news is you can learn to distance these negative thoughts, while your creative mind goes to work.

To find out how others stay creative under stress, we reached out to:

  • Kevin Huynh, Partner at People & Company

  • Ramon Mortiz, Senior Associate at iProspect

  • David Li, Technician and Fulfillment Specialist at KeyMe

Here’s what they had to say about distancing anxious thoughts and letting your mind be creative:

Identify Anxious Thoughts

“What’s the first thing you do when you find your mind racing from anxiety and stress?”

Once you notice your mind start to race take a moment to pause and breathe. Try to assess the situation. Ramon suggests considering your “current situation, emotions, [and] thoughts,” by asking questions like:

  • How did I get to this point?

  • Why am I thinking this?

  • Where did this feeling come from?

You can also try writing down your thoughts and feelings in a journal. Kevin finds “that putting [his] thoughts into words helps [him] reflect on what [he’s] feeling and why [he] feels that way.”

Put Things Into Perspective

“How do you silence these anxious and stressful thoughts?”

A common thread among the contributing influencers is to always put everything into perspective. For some, this means introspective reflection, while for others it means talking things out with a close friend.

Kevin says, “nothing silences stressful thoughts like talking them out with someone I trust. Often those discussions with my partner or business partner don't change the circumstances but they put seemingly overwhelming things into perspective.”

Priority Over Pressure

“When you have other tasks to complete, how do you focus on the task at hand rather than the building pressure?”

For Kevin, his “good days start with lists”. Especially when times get busy, Kevin proactively makes lists for each day of the week. However, we all know how easy a to-do list can quickly get out of hand.

This is why it’s important to focus on the present moment says David. He highlights the importance of tackling each task one-by-one even though it can feel “almost paralyzing to focus on whatever you may have on your plate at the moment.

Here are some best practices for writing your to-do list:

  • Include work-related and personal items

It’s important to make sure you complete all of your work. It’s even more important that you maintain good physical and mental health. Make time for yourself.

  • Identify urgent versus important items

This helps you determine which items need to be prioritized first, while others can wait until a more appropriate time. Focus on the urgent problems first.

You can read more about writing sensible to-do lists here.

Enjoy the Moment

“Do you have any exercises or habits or hobbies that help you clear your mind and prevent stress from wearing you down?”

Everyone has an activity, hobby, or something you enjoy doing. It’s important that you make time for yourself and these types of activities. For Kevin it’s cooking; he says, “cooking is rejuvenating. There's something about preparing, creating, and consuming food that makes me feel more like me.”


5 Questions to Help You Make Any Major Life Decision

Have you ever felt like the answer was right in front of you all along? When making a major life decision, it’s easy to overthink your options. All the “what-ifs” and “buts” can make it seem like there is no right decision -- it happens to the best of us.

Sometimes the best path forward is clearly defined, while other times it’s not. Fortunately, a proactive, mindful approach can help you see your options clearly to make the best choice moving forward.

A Process for Mindful Problem Solving

Before you make any major life decision, it’s important that you take a moment to slow things down. Breathe. It’s natural to feel emotionally charged when there is some sort of stake on the line. Don’t get caught up trying to uncover the “right” and “wrong” answers. You will naturally identify the best solution as you ask yourself these 5 questions:

1. What is your challenge?

The first step is to define the problem you are trying to solve. This is typically the major life decision you are trying to make. From choosing a field of study, career path, life partner, and more. You want to be crystal clear about what it is you are trying to solve.

Try asking yourself questions like:

  • What’s the challenge you are facing?

  • Why is this a challenge that must be addressed now?

  • What important details am I dealing with?

  • What do I want the outcome to be?

  • What bothers you about the problem?

  • What doesn’t bother you?

  • Who is involved?

  • Where does the problem occur?

  • When does it happen?

  • Why is it happening?

  • How does it happen?

  • How does it make you feel?

  • How do you react/respond?

Sometimes the problem you are facing will be very clear and already pre-defined. Other times the problem may be vague or require more effort to put it into words.

2. What are your possible outcomes?

Now it’s time to brainstorm all of the possible solutions to your challenge. It’s natural for our minds to focus on one “ideal solution”, but it’s important to let your mind search for multiple solutions. Think of this as an opportunity to brainstorm possible outcomes you may not have previously thought of.

To help you get started try thinking about solutions in terms of what it looks like you doing, feeling, and seeing. Focus both on what you do want to happen, as well as what you do not want to happen. Decide on your top 3 possible outcomes and keep these in mind.

3. What are your strategies to achieve these outcomes?

This is where you develop your ideas to craft a truly workable solution -- a plan you can implement to overcome your challenge. Try to think of as many strategies as you can for each of your 3 possible solutions from the previous step. These are actions you can take that will help you achieve a particular outcome. Remember, any idea is fair game at this point. Don’t criticize the merits of your ideas at this stage... we will get to that!

4. What are the consequences of your strategies?

In order to determine the best plan of action moving forward, consider the likelihood of success for each of your strategies from the previous step. Once you’ve done that, consider which of your outcomes from Question #2, has the most strategies that are likely to succeed. Of course, you’ll need to implement a specific strategy, but this is where you’ll have the best chances of success.

5. How can you implement this plan of action?

Now that you’ve arrived at a specific strategy to achieve a particular outcome, the final piece of the puzzle is to put it into action. Break your strategy down into a series of steps that take you from your current situation to your chosen outcome. By this point, you’ll have made a very intentional, mindful decision about the best course of action to overcome any challenge.


Why Peak Performance Requires a Strong Mind Body Connection

There are two types of exercise critical to reaching your peak performance in life: mental and physical. Physical exercise is organized, premeditated, focused physical movement that is intended to achieve a set of fitness goals. Common physical exercises include running, weight lifting, swimming, and yoga. With repetition, you get better over time.

Mental exercise is a bit more complicated. Your brain is active 24 hours a day and seven days a week. The brain is a super-powered processing machines constantly analyzing your external environment, while commanding your bodily functions. Your brain also regulates emotions, stores memories, and processes information both consciously and subconsciously. Just like physical activity, there is a distinction between brain activity and mental exercise.

Mental exercises are challenging. They require more cognitive power and eat up more energy. They are also the activities that make you smarter. Some examples include learning a new instrument, studying for a test, strategizing a new business model, and even reading for long periods of time.

Mutually Exclusive or Complementary?

What you may have noticed is that these examples of physical and mental exercise are not mutually exclusive. To play piano, you need to think about which notes to play and move your fingers and feet accordingly. To swim a proper breaststroke, you have to apply a learned technique to move efficiently and get better.

It is important to understand the difference between mental and physical exercise to understand an even more powerful type of exercise - the mind body connection.

The Mind Body Connection

Going as far back as ancient Greece, people believed that the mind and body were deeply intertwined. Medicine and sports were predicated on the idea that our bodies and minds depend on each other for peak performance. This notion was almost lost at the beginning of the seventeenth century, but has come back to popularity. Scientists in modern times have found again and again that the body and mind are a synchronized unit. For example, what separates Olympic athletes from recreational athletes is not their superior bodies; it’s actually their ability to make decisions on the fly, and command their muscles accordingly. Vice versa.

Here’s another example. Think back to the last time you were very hungry and trying to work. Not easy right? A body that’s properly fed, hydrated, and has stable glucose levels feeds a sharper, more focused, and calmer mind.

Though we do not yet fully understand the connectivity between the mind and body, it is a growing topic in a variety of fields from meditation to physiology to fitness. Peak performers, doctors and scientists all want to know how this relationship works. One thing is for sure. If you want to reach your peak performance in life, it’s critical to find a happy balance between mental and physical exercise.

3 Hacks for a More Mindful Workplace

Mindfulness is all about being present in the moment. When a work environment is chaotic or unenjoyable, our mind tends to wander. Whether you watch the clock or just daydream throughout the day, being present at work is possible, and we’re here to help you do it.

The top three hacks to building a more mindful workplace are:

Self Reflect for Deep Focus

Did you know that practicing mindfulness can actually increase your attention span? With increased self-awareness, you can be more intentional with your focus and mental clarity. The best part is you can practice mindfulness while you’re at work.

Pick a time of day (like after lunch) and take time to listen to how you’re feeling. Ask yourself:

  • How is my mind feeling?

  • How is my body feeling?

  • Do I feel stressed, busy, or tired?

By checking in with yourself, you are becoming self aware. When you do this regularly, your brain will begin to rewire itself to make stress and fatigue less painful. Once you acknowledge these feelings, you are able to work with more honesty and clarity.

Embrace Lunchtime Social Hour

For most of us, the office is a place of teamwork and collaboration. When you get along with your colleagues, your in-office experience improves alongside your work quality. Stress can hamper the ability to enjoy the company of others and communication, but being mindfully present with others can combat this. Spending time with others in the present moment has been proven time and time again to increase levels of serotonin -- one of the brain’s strongest feel-good and calming chemicals.

Lunch is a perfect time to let go of your focus on work and direct it to the people around you. Try having lunch with someone you like rather than eating alone. Make a conscious effort to really focus on someone’s lunch-time story, and engage in the conversation. When you get back to work, you’ll probably find it easier to focus since your brain will be in a more rejuvenated, relaxed state.

Mindfulness Loves Company

When you’re at lunch spending time with a friend, it’s more likely that they’ll notice the attention you’re paying to them. Not only does this make them feel good, but they’re more likely to open up to you and be kinder. This feeling is contagious because just as you returned to your desk feeling better, so do they. Both of you end up having more pleasant interactions with people. Over time, a friendlier work environment is created. It all starts with the simple act of paying mindful attention to others.

Building a mindful workplace doesn’t have to start from the top down. It can happen from the bottom up. You can do a lot to help yourself and others experience a calmer, more present work environment.

Tune Into Your Body For A Better Workout

Ever notice how you seem to find workout tips at every turn? Magazine articles at the checkout counter promise “5 ab exercises to get shredded”. Or the guy on the YouTube ad before your video has “the secret to weight loss in 30 days or less”. While each of these likely contain effective exercises, a good workout always starts with listening to your body.

How do you define a good workout?

For some it means burning lots of calories, while for others it’s all about lifting heavier weights, or running for a long time on the treadmill. At times, it can be hard to measure what counts as a good workout. Despite personal metrics there is one thing that’s the same for everyone. When you have a good workout, you feel great afterwards. To feel great after every workout and avoid getting lost in all the workout “information overload”, try listening to your body.

Tune Into Your Physical Self

Before you begin your workout take some time to sit or stand still. You can even do this laying down, which is a great option. Do a full body scan starting from the bottoms of your feet and make your way to the top of your head. Take your time, as the entire scan can take anywhere from one to three minutes.

Plan Your Workout Accordingly

After you’ve done your scan, you can choose which types of exercise would complement your body today. Maybe your shoulders are sore right now, but your core feels rested. In that case, you can make the workout about stretching your shoulders, loosening them up with some cardio, and focusing the hard exercises on your abs.

The Difference Between Good And Bad Pain

While you’re performing the hard exercises, you’ll likely experience a certain amount of pain. If you plan your workout by listening to your body, it’s probably good pain. Your heart will pound and your muscles will burn, but you’ll feel alive, strong, and vital while you workout. Bad pain is different. If you’re working out and feel sharp discomfort, or you’re finding it difficult to muster the energy to continue, then consider giving that muscle a break.

The key is to notice the difference and honor what your body is telling you. Although a good workout starts with the right mindset, it begins with awareness of your body. By choosing to listen, you are allowing yourself to become more self aware, cultivating a practice that will give you true lifelong fitness.

Shifting Gears From Work To Leisure

We are connected to our jobs more than ever before. Technology and smartphones have made us reachable 24/7. While this may be convenient for business, it’s important that our minds have a chance to relax and recharge. Here are some strategies people are using:

Protect Your Personal Time

How do you keep “work thoughts” from invading your personal time?

Victoria, Fashion Stylist: Meditation has been the biggest help when it comes to finding peace of mind. It taught me how to not fight the thoughts that are coming into my mind, but rather focus on breathing and let them go.

Judith, Program Coordinator: This is difficult at times, especially when there’s an intense period at work or when something gets under my skin. I find that I must be vigilant in observing my mind. When work thoughts occur during personal time, I have to make a conscious effort to create a boundary and refrain from engaging with the thinking. I compartmentalize the whole “folder” called work and I put it away.

Adam, Partner at Engage Media Group: It’s honestly the toughest thing to do, especially for those of us who don't work normal 9 to 5 jobs. You are responsible for so much that it’s almost always on my mind. Especially in today’s world where we are so connected with phones that a simple email or ad on Instagram can spark your mind to think work thoughts.

Korpo, Writer & Brand Strategist: “Work thoughts” typically arise after work hours when you have not prioritized and are unaware of what items you have left pending. At the end of each workday, I dedicate thirty minutes to weighing in on my priorities. Knowing exactly where I am on matters of importance allows me to set a plan of execution of the following day. This alleviates me of any anxiety that could arise over items I was unable to complete that day.

Keep Your Mind Off Work

What do you do when you find your mind wandering back to work? How do you silence these thoughts? Or do you give them attention?

Judith, Program Coordinator: First, I have be aware enough to catch it. Then, strong enough to be willing to reject it. Once that decision is made and the boundary is set, it takes some affirmative thought to put it away. Sometimes, I even have to breathe through the more pervasive “breakouts”. It’s not so much that I silence these thoughts per se, it’s that I refuse to put my attention on them and then they recede. Sometimes, if they are relentless, I do give them attention. At times, I have been able to assess my work issues with the most clarity during my personal time.

Adam, Partner at Engage Media Group: Most times it’s tossing the phone to the side and not picking it up. Another way is to spend time with some friends. Being social helps keep your mind off work since you are vibing and enjoying the moment.

Korpo, Writer & Brand Strategist: In basketball, the 5-second rule helps to promote a continuous play. How can this help stop your mind from wandering back to work? Easy, as soon as I find my mind being sucked back into work mode, I ask myself will this matter cause you to lose your job? Now is time to pass, dribble, or shoot. If I cannot make the call within 5 seconds, it’s a penalty; I must stop everything I am doing and attend to whatever matter has come to mind.

Christian, Direct-Response Copywriter: I just take a deep breath and try to stay focused in the moment. I don't give the thoughts much attention, especially if I can't do anything about them at that time.

Unwind To Switch Gears

Is there a specific activity, routine, habit, or ritual you do after work to switch gears into leisure mode?

Victoria, Fashion Stylist: Working out tremendously helps with switching gears! I also recommend working on a passion project that brings you joy.

Judith, Program Coordinator: When I am super stressed at work, a hot bath will help me to transition into my down time. It became a ritual of releasing any work-related stress.

Korpo, Writer & Brand Strategist: Classical conditioning is a learning process that occurs when two stimuli are paired habitually. While some habits are debilitating, others can be lifesaving. I have a set playlist that I listen to everyday for an hour before the end of my work day. My mind has been conditioned to leave work at the end of my playlist. Since adopting this habit, I now leave work more pumped and eager to head home than ever before.


Christian, Direct-Response Copywriter: After work I get changed into comfortable clothing, help out with dinner, and eat some food. I'd then either read my Kindle, watch YouTube or watch Dragon's Den. This happens naturally as I’m often exhausted and ready to relax.

How to Live in Balance with Technology

There’s no denying that screens have become an integral part of life, whether it’s working from a laptop, scrolling on phones, or relaxing in front of the TV. A recent Nielsen audience report revealed the average person spends 10 hours a day looking at screens... almost two thirds of the time we’re awake!

Since technology is deeply rooted in our daily habits, it’s important to find time away from screens. Being intentional about your screen-free time will help you reconnect with physical experiences for a more mindful, healthy, and fulfilling life.

Practice Mind-Body Connection

Technology allows us to experience things without even having to be present. For instance, if you’re watching a comedy where there is a group of friends talking, you’re experiencing social engagement without actually being there. This is a vicarious experience that only occurs in the mind. If you were really out with a group of friends, the richness of the experience becomes much more fulfilling because your body and mind work best together.

Enjoy The Little Things In Life


It may sound cliche, but enjoying the small things in life is a great way to find inner peace. The smells, sounds, tastes, textures, and gestures enriches every experience. Standing, laughing, looking people in the eye, and really living in that moment are incredibly valuable. In the real world, your senses are given a necessary feast of stimuli that can’t be found through technology.

Manage Screen Time

Most electronic screens have significantly high levels of blue light. Blue light is high energy with a short wavelength, which means it scatters more easily than other colours of the spectrum. Why should you care? Overexposure to blue light makes it difficult for our eyes to focus and can leave the retina vulnerable to damage.

Tip: If you find yourself experiencing these symptoms, you can order blue light filtering glasses and download blue light reduction apps that make your screen appear more yellow.

Get A Good Night’s Rest


Blue light also increases alertness by suppressing the body’s production of the sleep hormone, melatonin. This is great early in the day, but that’s not the case when you’re trying to fall asleep. To fall asleep quicker, try swapping your dose of late night Netflix with a book, drawing, or another peaceful activity you enjoy.

Technology has its place in our lives, but like anything, it’s about finding a balance that works for you. If you feel like something is missing in your life, try swapping screen time for more real life experiences.

 

How Top Performing Teams Get In The Zone

Have you ever experienced a dream-like state where high quality work flows effortlessly and without hesitation? The kind you’d describe with words like flow state or deep work. More specifically, it’s when your mind balances relaxation with concentration. Here are 3 practices top performing teams use to “get in the zone”:

Find A Shared Purpose

Every task becomes significantly easier - and a lot more fun - when it has a meaningful purpose. Defining the team’s purpose allows team members to be in sync and see how they can best contribute for success. One way you can define this purpose is to understand how the task serves any bigger picture goals. This allows you to keep your team grounded and focused if there’s ever any debate about how to move forward in the project.

Tip: Try to find a strong visual or statement that encapsulates the team’s mission.

Simplify The Process

As human beings we have a habit of over complicating things. Our awesome, high-powered brains are so analytical that they sometimes experience analysis paralysis. This is when your purpose statement comes in handy. Having a clear intention allows you to decide which tasks will move you closer to the bigger picture goal and which ones will not. This will provide you context to assess each problem, so you can deal with it appropriately.

Remove Physical Distractions

There are a proven ways to improve people’s focus at work. The first is to remove any physical distractions. When it’s time to sit down and work, close social media, turn off phone notifications, close your email, and only keep tabs open related to the task at hand. Top performing teams do this because they know It takes an entire 20 minutes to completely refocus after a distraction.

Getting in the zone is no myth exclusive to athletes and superheros. It’s a wonderful, empowering state that anyone has access to. If you’re looking to take your team’s focus to the next level, try applying these 3 strategies.

How Emotions Inspire Our Perspectives of the World

Our emotions affect how we perceive the world around us. How someone feels emotionally will influence the meaning we pull from different sensations, as well as past experiences and knowledge. This provides the power to reshape our perspectives by understanding the emotions within us.

To see how people are working to understand their emotions, we reached out to:

  • Dre, Customer Experience Ninja

  • Dadry, Creative Freelancer

  • Corri, Filmmaker

Here’s what they had to say about understanding your emotions. It all begins with emotional balance.

Understanding Emotional Balance

When we asked, what does being “emotionally balanced” mean to you, a common thread is to allow yourself to feel your emotions as they come and go, while “dealing with them in real time”. Dre highlights the importance of not letting yourself “become overly consumed with what may come and not judge yourself for feeling how you do.”

For Corri it means, “making a choice to take time for yourself and not allowing the fast pace of life to control your inner peace. Try creating a routine to keep this balance intact, such as making the bed, stretching, and taking a few moments to meditate. Find moments in the day to be grateful for your path and the world around you” - even the parts of life you can’t control.

Search For Perspective

The next question we asked is: How do you regulate your emotions when you’re feeling down or life feels out-of-control?

Taking a step back can help you put things into perspective. Dadry suggests, “slowing down and taking in the world around you. Cleaning is one way to physically fix the chaos around you. It’s about finding something new and calming to take your mind off the stress of it all.”

After taking a moment to breath deeply, Corri says, “I consider the consequences of my reactions. Do I spiral out of control or remain calm and think logically about the situation? I usually choose the latter. If I feel extremely emotionally charged and feel the need to express myself I try to do so as honestly and calmly as possible.”

Accept Your Emotions

Our final question is: What advice do you have for people who have trouble controlling their emotions, both in their own minds and when expressing emotions to others?

Dre suggests, “My advice to people who have trouble controlling their emotions would be to accept what comes. Don't avoid or try to suppress anything that might come up because it will come back to the surface eventually. Take a moment to positively respond to what you are going through instead of reacting immediately. Many times we react without thinking and it tends to not be the best plan of action.”

Dadry encourages you to “find a way to filter the mess. Music, art, exercise; any activity that is expressive - even something as simple as talking it out. Usually a stressful situation is one where there isn’t a firm sight of clarity. Talking to someone who is on the outside looking in might be exactly what you need.”

Corri often asks, “Who are your emotions affecting? When we become irrational we are not lucid. So you can not clearly convey your emotions and express your truest desires. In one’s own mind I would think about what is creating any distress? What’s the source? Can you control it or is it out of your control? You cannot allow things that are out of your control to disturb your peace. Take a few moments to breath and think about how much power you want to allow others or a situation to have over you. What outcome will expressing your emotions have?”

Why Balance is the Key Ingredient to High Performance

Strong leadership is an act of balance. To ensure projects are successful, a team relies on guidance that is both emotionally and logically sound. When the going gets tough, it can be easy to lean to one side. A logic-driven leader might overlook a person's needs for the sake of task completion. While an emotionally-guided leader could focus too much on accommodating everyone that tasks start to slip through the cracks. That’s why truly effective, high performing teams require a balanced approach to leadership.

The Balanced Leadership Approach

Imagine good leadership as a seesaw. On one side, there’s logic where goals are clearly defined, timelines are established, and tasks are allocated among other decisions. On the emotional side, the leader is deeply in tune with the team members to support their growth and development. Just like a seesaw, a successful leaders will need to move back and forth between emotion and logic to arrive at sound decisions.

For example, if you’re the kind of person who turns to logic during difficult times, you might find it easier to take decisions away from the team and make the tough calls yourself. As a leader you feel responsible for the projects success, right? Not necessarily. By calling all the shots you’re desensitizing yourself from other people, which can hinder team morale quickly.

Leverage Your Team’s Skills

There’s a very good chance you’re surrounded by skilled, motivated people with tons of potential, so leverage it! Giving someone from your team the chance to make their own decisions prevents micro-managing, improves self confidence, and gives them an opportunity to grow and improve. It also fosters a sense of trust within the office that makes work better for everyone, including the leader. By finding a synchronicity between feeling and thinking, you’re creating a culture in which business and the people who run it can thrive.


It’s important to know when to lean to one side or the other, and shift accordingly. A team that is supported emotionally is more likely to stay on task and maintain focus because they want to do a better job for the company. Just remember to keep a good work culture in place. You also need to set clear, reasonable deadlines, and work expectations to keep your team on track.

Find The Rhythm


We keep going back and forth, but that’s really all it is. You’ll know when you’ve got the rhythm down. Leadership is a delicate balance of managing the tasks to be completed, as well as relationships with the people who complete them. Sometimes you need to put more emphasis on logic, and sometimes more on emotion. With the two forces working together, amazing feats can be accomplished.

Taste Each Bite: The Benefits of Slow Eating

In recent years, food has become less about community and artsmanship, and more about convenience. However, slowing down the fast pace of modern life is essential to wellbeing - especially when it comes to meals. Many studies have shown that eating slowly is tremendously beneficial for the body and mind. Although it can be instinctual to scarf down a quick bite between meetings or after work, taking the time to chew slowly and take breaks between bites can improve the entire eating experience.

The Health Benefits: Improves Digestion

Eating has everything to do with the mind-body connection. As you chew, your brain is sending signals to multiple parts of your body to prepare for digestion. When you eat slowly, you’re giving your body more time to realize what’s happening. In fact, it takes twenty minutes on average for your mind to signal to your body that you are full. Chewing quickly can override this mind-to-body dialogue because it all happens too fast. Often this leads to stomach cramps, bloating, poor digestion, or even acid reflux. Chewing slowly, on the other hand, allows your mind and body to be in sync. Together your mind and body can work more effectively by giving your mouth and stomach time to get the message.

The Experiential Benefits: Appreciate The Food

Food is good, so good. In fact it might be one of life’s greatest joys, so why not make the most of it? Rather than rushing through that piece of pizza, burger, granola bar or fresh apple, slowing down to savor it helps you get more than calories out of your food. When chewing slowly, you may notice flavors, smells, and textures you might have missed before. Eating slowly doesn’t just stop you from being hungry, it makes for a much richer experience.

The Social Benefits: Enjoy Your Company


Some of the healthiest nations in the world don’t actually eat what we might consider “healthy” food. Countries like France, Italy, and Greece eat a diet based primarily in breads and cheeses, and have some of the healthiest people in the world. What’s the difference? There are two main reasons. For one, these European countries eat socially. You’d be hard pressed to find someone eating alone. In eating socially, people also naturally slow down - this is the second reason. If you have trouble eating slowly, try eating with another person. The conversations you have make it easier to take breaks between bites, and think about the whole experience of eating, not just the food itself.

How to Protect Your Mind From Social Media Envy

Social media is positive in a lot of ways. It makes us laugh, fills free time, and can help us keep in touch with friends and family. Unfortunately, social media may also skew the idea of what a happy life looks like. In fact, Instagram and Facebook have been ranked as the top two worst social media sites for mental health. To stay positive as you surf social media, try some of these tips to strengthen your inner happiness.

The Highlight Reel

Scrolling through the newsfeed, we see one friend traveling the world, and another who just got married. We see someone who just landed an awesome job, and another person posing on the beach looking amazing. The best thing to do is feel happy for the success of your friends, but it’s not always that simple. If you’ve had a bad day or are feeling particularly vulnerable, seeing other people’s highlight reels can make you feel envious. However, that’s all they are - highlight reels. This is just what’s being shown to the public and doesn’t always represent the full story. It’s important to keep this perspective in mind when you’re browsing social media.

Unfollow Triggering People

Typically, there are a handful of people who make glamorous posts more often, or may have something that you want. Facebook makes unfollowing really easy. All you have to do is go to their profile and click “unfollow”. It’s completely anonymous so the person will not be notified. Plus they remain on your friends list. When you unfollow someone on Instagram, the person won’t get a notification either. If seeing someone’s posts are getting you down, don’t be afraid to do what’s best for your wellbeing.

Take A Break

If you’re still feeling envious after unfollowing triggering people, it could be time to take a break from social media. To take a break from instagram, it’s as simple as deleting the app off your phone. If you’ve saved your password or linked the app to another account like Google or Facebook, logging back in when you’re ready is easy. To take a break from Facebook, you can try changing your password to something more difficult to remember. Save that password somewhere, and don’t use it until you feel you’re ready to go back on the site.

Oh, the peace and quiet. Wait, is that an urge to scroll? For some of us, opening a social media app becomes second nature and can be a hard habit to kick. According to social psychologists, setting a benchmark of 21 days to remain scroll-free is the necessary amount of time to break a habit. The first week off an app is usually the hardest, but it becomes a lot easier after that. All the time you free up is great for removing jealousy triggers from your life, while also providing time to reflect.

Is Social Media Worth It?

What does social media provide for us? It’s a bit of a catch 22. You get amazing inspirational stories, and the latest news tailored to your interests. You get to see your baby cousin growing up and cute animal pictures. Mixed in with all that good stuff is a lot of content based in narcissism and envy, so what’s a person to do?


This time away from social media presents the perfect opportunity to gain some perspective. What do you want these sites to provide for you? By making that choice clear in your mind and acting accordingly, you are building a web experience that serves your happiness - not your dissatisfaction.

Using Past Lessons to Inform Big Life Choices

Making choices in life isn’t always easy. For some of us, the simple task of choosing a restaurant for dinner can be stressful. When it comes to even bigger life decisions like moving or taking on a new job, choices become increasingly complex. How do you simplify a decision when there are so many variables at play? Thanks to past life experience, you can tap into knowledge you’ve already acquired to make a clear, calm, and informed decision.

Mistakes Are Okay

The first (and arguably most important) thing to realize is that mistakes are okay. Really, they are. When making a big life choice, it’s easy to get overwhelmed by all the details of a situation. Overthinking a decision often leads us to worry about making the wrong one. When we make a mistake, it can be embarrassing and painful, but it’s this very discomfort that makes the experience so memorable.

When considering a big life decision, you might find your mind referring back to a time when you made the wrong choice. We’re here to tell you that it’s okay. We’re all human and we all make mistakes - a lot of them. That’s how we grow.

Tapping Into Your Experiences

If you find yourself thinking about a time when things went wrong, try reframing it in a way that is useful to you. What is it about the memory that reminds you of your current decision? Write down all the parts of the experience that feel relevant to the present. The list could be as long or as short as you want.

When you’re finished, break down each point. For example, if you’re moving, the list could include a point “I don’t want to go through the stress of moving again, last time we were so unorganized,” Inside the mind, it can be easy to condemn yourself to being a “disorganized person”. Instead, try thinking back to the specifics of that belief to understand where it’s coming from. Ask questions like:

  • What made it disorganized?

  • Based on that experience, what can you do to be more organized this time?

Mistakes Aren’t Final

A mistake is only a mistake when you don’t learn from it. Making the wrong decision doesn’t mean you’re going to do it again. Don’t let self-limiting beliefs tell you otherwise. By going through an uncomfortable experience, you’ve had the opportunity to feel it and learn the ups and downs. The next time you foresee something similar, you can be compassionate with yourself to make a better choice this time around.

Why Plants Are Good For Your Mind

It’s been proven time and time again that being in nature makes you happier. The fresh air, a cool breeze, sunlight on your face, and an array of greenery rejuvenates and calms the mind. Unfortunately, most of us can’t be outside all the time. Instead, you can bring the benefits of nature indoors with the help of some houseplants.

Houseplants are some of the most underrated additions you can have around the house. Keeping a few plants in your living space can be very beneficial to your mental wellbeing. Here are three ways houseplants are good for your mind.

The Color Green

Did you know the human eye can see more shades of green than any other color? There are many theories to explain this, but the most well-accepted is due to evolution. Our ancestors lived in green spaces and needed to determine subtle differences in green colors. They did this in order to evaluate their environment and decide which plants were safe to eat, as well as which ones were not. This connection to the color green still holds true today. Physiologically, seeing the color green reduces stress levels by signaling to our brain that we are in a natural, healthy environment. This calming effect also makes it easier to think more clearly.

Improves Air Quality

Houseplants have a remarkable ability to clean toxins from indoor air. A few years back, NASA released a study that determined which houseplants are best at improving indoor air quality. They looked at five main indoor air pollutants including formaldehyde, as well as other neurotoxic chemicals like trichloroethylene and ammonia. Each plant was then tested accordingly. Some of the top air-cleaners included peace lilies, english ivy, chrysanthemums, and snake plants. These plants literally suck the toxins from the air into their leaves and roots. A reduction of common neurotoxic chemicals in the indoor air improves mood, increases energy levels, and improves memory and cognition.

Something To Care For

All science aside, there is something very emotionally satisfying about caring for plants. It’s no wonder that the process of purchasing, learning about, and caring for houseplants is a popular hobby. If you’re new to plants, try starting off with something easy to take care of like a spider plant or umbrella plant. Do a bit of research on how much light they need and how often to water as you watch your plant grow. Tending to a plant is a low-stakes activity that reaps great rewards. Yes your air be cleaner and your house will look more lively, but you’ll also have a nice activity during your down time. Not to mention the tremendous joy you’ll experience when the first new leaf sprouts up.

Bringing the outdoors inside is a great way to promote a happier, healthier living space.

 

 

 

How Mindfulness Attributed to Human Evolution

According to Darwinism, humans evolved from apes. Even after years of research, there is still no way to pinpoint the exact moment apes evolved into humans. Instead, it is likely that a series of micro-factors like environment, diet, and genetic mutation led to the development of our species. What was it that set us on a trajectory away from apes? Our minds.

Human beings don’t have the largest brains on Earth. In fact, we don’t even have the largest brain-to-body ratio. What makes the human brain so special is its highly evolved prefrontal cortex. This area of the brain is responsible for problem solving, language, personality expression, and of course, self awareness. This highly developed ability to orient and consider oneself in relation to the past, current, and future world is arguably what makes us the most human. Because we have such well-developed frontal lobes, we have the capacity to be aware of our thoughts.

Many scientists believe that the prefrontal cortex began to evolve due to a gene mutation that gave us weaker jaws. At first, this may sound like a bad thing, but it’s really one of the best things that could have happened to us as a species. As we became more self aware with this bigger brain, humans began to realize that by cooking food, we could get way more nutritional value from the calories we consumed (not to mention it tasted way better!) Since the brain is an energy eating machine, cooking food to more condensed, less fibrous meals allowed us to get way more nutrition than apes. As this fueled our brains to grow, more complex modes of thought evolved.  

Though we didn’t know it all those years ago, thinking introspectively about ourselves was actually allowing our brains to grow even larger. For example, this could have started with simple caveman thinking. “I am strong caveman, and can defend my family. I am stronger with tree branch when defending my family.” To an ancient Egyptian like Cleopatra thinking “I will marry Julius Caesar not because I love him, but because it is the right strategic move to protect Egypt from Rome.[1]” Overtime, we have become better and better at considering ourselves, our position, and how to strategically accomplish our goals. Cleopatra is a great example of the modern human being’s ability to override the emotional parts of our brains with logical thinking.

Science has shown us that by focusing our awareness on different things, our brain physically changes. This is what scientists today call neuroplasticity. Cleopatra, along with countless other people have chosen year after year to move their attention away from the fear/emotional response occurring in the amygdala, and to the frontal lobe. By doing this, we have strengthened the parts of our brains that are more logical and self aware, while shrinking the more primitive areas of the brain.

What’s really cool is that regular mindfulness practice and meditation actually reduces the size of the amygdala (the fear center of the brain), and strengthens the connections within the prefrontal lobe. This trains your brain to think more calmly, clearly, and logically. By strengthening these neural pathways, we are literally changing our genes. Next time you’re meditating, you can feel good about building a better brain for today and tomorrow.

How Managing Others Helps You Become Emotionally Aware

Emotional intelligence is one of the fastest growing job skills, according to the World Economic Forum. This skill has two sides. On one hand, it’s the the capacity to notice, control, and express your own emotions. On the other, it’s the ability to understand and respond appropriately to the emotions of others. The interesting thing is you can actually improve your emotional awareness by managing others.

Understanding Other Perspectives

When you’re managing a team of people, it’s important to understand and explore the perspectives that others bring to the table, even when you don’t agree. A lot of judgement comes from a place of misunderstanding, so instead of rejecting another person’s viewpoint, try putting yourself in their shoes. By challenging yourself to understand someone else's perspective, you are opening your mind to possibilities you may not have previously seen. It can also help you understand where your own beliefs and thoughts emerge from, which is key to self-awareness.

Expressing Genuine Interest

Expressing genuine interest in the lives of your team members has many benefits. You can ask how their weekend was, get to know their family life, or ask how their kids are. You could even get their thoughts on a certain idea or news story. By making a conscious effort to understand what someone else believes, thinks, or feels, you are developing your own capacity to understand emotion.

Part of leading others involves dealing with difficult times. These challenging times are inevitable - they are a part of life. Having to deal with these situations helps you become more emotionally aware. It challenges you to put your ego aside and have the tough conversation that needs to be had. Think about a time when you swept something under the rug instead of confronting the issue. As you become more emotionally aware, you begin to realize the difficult conversation often alleviates a lot of tension and misunderstanding. This in turn helps you to become even more emotionally aware.

Emotional awareness isn’t necessarily a skill people are born with, however, it’s a skill you can learn. A regular mindfulness practice will help you become aware of your emotions and connect with your team.

3 Signs It’s Time To Take A Break From Social Media

Who better to ask about social media breaks than a couple of Instagram influencers? Meet Brendan (@BrendanLowry) and Nicole (@NicoleLoher).

Brendan runs a creative agency based in Philadelphia. He helps brands tell their stories on social media with influencer marketing. Nicole is the Global Digital Editor at Christian Louboutin, Adjunct Professor at New York University, and a triathlete.

Here’s what the two influencers have to say about knowing when it’s time to take a break from social media:

Know When the Negatives Outweigh the Positives

Brendan’s first experience with pausing social media occurred shortly after Trump was elected. With all the negativity being spread online, he thought maybe it would be “best to just turn things off for a little while.” During those few weeks, Brendan says his mood improved dramatically.

“Whether it’s feeling jealous of others’ accomplishments, over-analyzing the content that I’m planning on posting and worrying about what people will think, or building stories around why certain people did or didn’t like my content, it’s happening constantly.” But, he says when he’s in a good place mentally, Brenden is able to put things into perspective and take a break.

When we talked to Nicole, she gave us a tip on how to make the social media experience more positive. “Post with the intention to lift people higher and expect others to do the same.” This way, you can contribute to a healthier social media experience for yourself and for others. Overall, it’s a great way to stay positive on social media.

Seek Deeper Connection

On a trip to Sri Lanka to meet her fiancé’s family, Nicole decided to turn her phone off completely for the first time. She recalls how “incredibly freeing [it felt] to not care what anyone else was doing on the Internet. My fiancé, his family, and I were able to connect on another level.” Now Nicole makes a point to disconnect from social media every weekend.

Recognize When Scrolling Becomes A Habit

Brendan takes matters into his own hands to keep scrolling from becoming a habit. “I don’t have Facebook or Twitter installed on my phone to avoid using it constantly, but I was still logged into the browser and I would find myself mindlessly refreshing/scrolling. These apps are designed to make it super easy to stay logged in and very hard to log out. So I logged out, deleted my browsing, search, and password history, and then deleted and redownloaded chrome.”

Those habits were hard to kick, but he’d put the right barriers in place. “For the first few days, I’d go to the browser and type in Twitter.com or Facebook.com without even remembering I was on a break.” Since he was no longer logged in, it was more difficult to access the platform, which reminded him to stay on a break.

Even social media influencers need to limit their time on social media. Going offline can be a challenge, but it’s one worth taking to feel happier, healthier, and more connected to the people around you. If you’re feeling anything less than inspired by what you see online, unfollow people or simply signout. When social media starts to feel like a negative distraction in life, try taking a break. You might be amazed by how much better you feel, and how much power you have over your social media experience.

30 Minutes Outdoors To Clear Your Mind

Do you ever get brain fog? You know, that fuzzy-headed feeling where it’s hard to remember where you left your keys? When you’re feeling foggy, it can be hard to focus and make logical decisions. The good news is you can clear your mind by spending as little as 30 minutes outdoors. Why do you think it’s called “the great outdoors?” When you go outside, your body and mind undergo a physiological shift that provides a whole host of mind-clearing benefits.

Soak Up Some Sun

Going outside exposes you to the sun. If you were to take a 30 minute walk, or even sit outside in the sun, you may notice your mood improve. There’s a reason you feel so good. It turns out, the sun encourages your brain to release a healthy dose of your body’s natural happy chemical - serotonin. Higher levels of serotonin improves your brain's ability to think clearly. This hormone is also responsible for that relaxed feeling of love you get on a warm and sunny day. Even if it’s a cloudy day, many of the sun's rays still find a way down to your skin. As your body absorbs the sun’s ultraviolet light, it converts those rays into vitamin D. In just 30 minutes, your skin produces enough vitamin D to last you the whole day.

Embrace The Outdoor Experience

When you’re outside, you are seeing, smelling, hearing, and feeling a whole bunch of stimuli that are instinctually relaxing to human beings. Think about it - the human world, the one we built with skyscrapers, computers, subways and buses has only been around for about 0.0001% of the time human beings have inhabited the Earth. In evolutionary terms, that’s not a very long time to adapt to a new environment. The outdoors, on the other hand, has been around since the beginning of time. The experience you have outdoors is the one that’s built into your very DNA. Being outside is also one of those no-strings-attached activities. It’s free, simple, and doesn’t ask anything from you. This leads to a reduction in blood pressure, lowered cortisol levels, and reduced anxiety.

Surround Yourself With Green And Blue

Being outside is such a simple activity, and almost everyone has access to the outdoors in some way. Even if you live in the city center, a small park is usually just a few blocks away. It’s important to enjoy the nature of our planet. You could go somewhere with lots of greenery or a waterfront. Or maybe you prefer to reflect while staring at the clouds and sky. The important lesson here is that you take some time to relax your mind and appreciate the little things life has to offer. Next time you need to clear that brain fog, try using an ancient antidote and spend some time outside.